Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of men and women who grew up in alcoholic or otherwise
dysfunctional homes. The ACA program was founded on the belief that family dysfunction is a
disease that effected us as children and affects us as adults. Our membership also includes
adults from homes where alcohol or drugs were not present; however, abuse, neglect or unhealthy
We meet to share our experience and recovery in an atmosphere of mutual respect. We discover
how alcoholism and other family dysfunction affected us in the past and how it influences us in
the present. We begin to see the unhealthy elements of our childhood. By practicing the Twelve Steps, focusing on the ACA Solution, and accepting a
loving Higher Power of our own understanding, we find freedom.
Why We First Came to ACA
Our decisions and answers to life did not seem to work. Our lives had become unmanageable. We
exhausted all the ways we thought we could become happy. We often lost our creativity, our
flexibility, and our sense of humor. Continuing the same existence was no longer an option.
Nevertheless, we found it almost impossible to abandon the thought of being able to fix
ourselves. Exhausted, we held out hope that a new relationship, a new job, or a move would be the
cure, but it never was. We made the decision to seek help.
Why We "Keep Coming Back"
At the end of an ACA meeting, the group members encourage one another to "keep coming back" to
meetings. Why? We found people in the meetings who listened to us talk. They did not judge us.
They did not try to fix us. They did not interrupt us when we spoke. They merely told us that if
we came to meetings on a regular basis, we would gradually begin to feel better. We did.
What We Do in ACA Meetings
- We share what is happening in our lives, and how we are dealing with these issues in our
recovery program. (i.e., share our experience, strength, and hope).
- We build a personal support network.
- We practice our recovery & personal boundaries by giving service.
What We Do Not Do at Meetings
- We do not engage in crosstalk.
- We do not criticize.
- We do not comment on what others say.
- We do not offer advice.
- We do not distract others from the person speaking by word, whisper, gesture, noise, or
- We do not violate the anonymity of others.
- We do not repeat what is said in meetings (in any context).
How We Work a Program of Recovery
Individuals recover at their own pace. We have learned by experience that those ACA members
who make the greatest gains in the shortest amount of time are using the tools of recovery.
TOOLS OF ACA RECOVERY
- We go to meetings, and call program people to discuss recovery issues.
- We read ACA literature and learn about the experiences of others while gaining clarity on
our own experiences.
- We define & enforce our boundaries.
- We work & use the 12 Steps & 12 Traditions.
- We identify the people, places and things that are healthy and useful to our lives today,
and discard those that are not.
- We reconnect with our Inner Child or True Self.
- We work with a sponsor & build support networks.
- We attend meetings that focus on issues upon which we need to work.
- We give service in ACA.
Listening to others and ourselves share at meetings helps us in our recovery. Sharing at
meetings sometimes helps us to focus, define and clarify our problems. We express our feelings.
Talking out loud helps us to resolve some problems. We talk about our action plans to change our
lives, or how well our current plan is working. At times we report our progress or victories. We
often use meetings as a reality check on our overall program, comparing our current life in the
program to our adult life before coming to the ACA program.
In the meetings we come to understand how our childhood experiences shape our attitudes,
behavior, and choices today. We hear others talk about their experiences, and we recognize
ourselves. We learn how we can change. We sense that within ourselves are people who are not who
we were taught to be. Some people call these our "inner children." We discover ourselves.
We read literature about ACA issues, often using the literature as life rafts. We hang on to
what we have read when the seas get temporarily rough. Many of us write on a daily basis, finding
that it helps us to put things into perspective for us. Some of us write to get in touch with our
inner children. We write about our childhoods, daily thoughts, recurring struggles, and
discoveries about life and ourselves. We write about new issues as they arise. We use ACA
functions outside the meetings to learn spontaneity and how to have fun.
Gradually, we begin to recognize the negative parenting messages from our childhoods that
drive our lives. We learn how to replace them with healthy behaviors. This is a first step toward
"reparenting." As we gradually reparent our selves, our outlook on life changes. We begin to look
at it from an emotionally mature perspective. Ultimately, we become happier, stronger, more
capable people -- more able to handle life. We learn to respect others and ourselves. The quality
of our lives improves as we learn to define and communicate our boundaries, and insist that they
We have learned by experience that those ACA members who make the greatest gains in the
shortest amount of time are those who use the "tools of recovery." We have also found that all of
us recover at our own paces, and in our own time. We are individuals who come from varied
experiences and backgrounds.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to recover from the effects of growing up in
an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional family.
Many 12-Step programs require that only literature published within the program be available
at meetings. The ACA program, from the outset, has held that valuable information exists outside
the program. We do suggest that any outside literature brought into the meetings be in keeping
with the ACA 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Our program also suggests that such literature be kept
separate from ACA Conference Approved literature. For more information on the ACA literature
policy, refer to the brochure entitled, "The ACA Literature Policy."
Contributions are Voluntary
No dues or fees are required for membership; we are, however, fully self-supporting through
our own contributions. We give our 7th Tradition donations at the meetings as we can afford to,
in acknowledgment of the benefits our program gives us.
At the meeting level our contributions are used to keep the doors open (pay the rent, buy the
refreshments, make literature available), at the Regional level to keep the lines of
communications open between Intergroups and World Service, and at the World Service level so
people can find meetings. Each member has a responsibility to keep ACA operational by ensuring
their meeting supports their Intergroup, Region, and World Service organizations.
ACA is an independent Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program. We are not affiliated with any
other Twelve Step organization. We do, however, cooperate with other Twelve Step, Twelve
Tradition programs. We are not allied with any sect, denomination, organization, institution,
political, or law enforcement groups. We do not engage in any controversy, and we neither endorse
nor oppose any causes.
A Personal Invitation
This is your personal invitation to come to ACA and to keep coming back. Your
presence in meetings helps us in our recovery. We know that this program works for us. We have
yet to see anyone fail who honestly works the program. This is our path to sanity, our program to
We invite you to participate. ACA works!
This is an extract from the brochure "ACA IS...".
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